Being 29, Danny 32 and married for 4.5 years, we get this question a lot (let’s be real mostly from my parents, not so much Danny’s as they have 1000 grandkids already). But also from my blog readers and followers, friends, and family so I wanted to write about it. I love including you guys in my life and this is something that has been on my mind a lot lately.

Danny and I have been together for over TEN years, which to me is insane. I remember being 20 and would say to him “quiero una casa con un perro y un bebe” which means “I want a house with a dog and a baby in spanish. We soon after broke up LOL. Had we chose to pursue that at that age I’m sure I would have still been happy and would have never known any different. However, I’m so happy we’ve done things the way we have, and I think we are a stronger couple for it. Which leads me to exactly why we haven’t had kids yet:

1. I’m selfish
Yeah I said it. I’m selfish. And I think this is the number one reason why we have not had any children yet. From being able to drink on certain occasions, to travelling all over the world, to choosing to build our careers. We’ve been selfish in enjoying our marriage whole heartedly, travelling, and building our businesses.

2. We’re still young
There are a lot of people around us that have kids or are having kids, which is amazing! However, there are also a lot of people around us that are not. I feel like our generation in general is having children a lot older so they can be better established to give the child a better life when they decide to bring a being into the world. Danny does have close friends with children, but almost none of my close girlfriends are even close to bringing a child into the world. Not that that is really what is holding me back but it would be nice to have someone to go through the process with. I always envisioned getting pregnant at the same time as my friends.

3. I honestly didn’t care enough
Some people are natural born mothers – it’s like that’s what they were born to do, and they’re GOOD at it, so good at it, yeah, that’s not me. I’ve never really had a maternal instinct which actually frightens me to be honest LOL. So except for that time frame when I was 20, I haven’t since really had a want to have kids, I mean I obviously want kids, but just not at that moment. Danny and I were so happy with our lives and the way things were. I never got a feeling of ‘awe I want a little baby’ or that I was ready to move onto that portion of my life.

4. I refuse to have a child in an apartment
Not to sound like a complete brat, but I refuse. It’s not really a space thing, it’s more of a logistics thing. I actually think if we didn’t have Gigi I might be able to put up with it. But G is honestly SO needy and cries whenever I leave the house, we literally have to throw a treat in and run. Ideally she would come with us on walks etc. with the stroller but she pulls and goes insane when she sees another dog so pretty sure she’d take that stroller down. I also can’t leave the baby alone to take G out so he/she would have to come and I know it would just be a big stressful mess ending in me ugly crying to Danny. I really wouldn’t be comfortable until we had a place with a little yard so I can let Gigi out and not have to disturb the baby.

5. It hasn’t happened
And this is probably one of the bigger factors, it hasn’t happened yet. It’s only been in the last 6 months or so where I’ve come around to the idea of getting pregnant and having a baby, that’s not to say that we’ve been doing literally anything to prevent it. I haven’t been on birth control since probably my early twenties. I think both Danny and I at this point in our lives would be overjoyed to get pregnant. Since we’ve taken no precautions to prevent it and nothing has happened, 2019 is the year we’ll start looking into it and figure out what we need to do to get the ball rolling.